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12/07/2012

Why don’t we tell people about our blogs?

At an event last night I was chatting with some other bloggers and the topic of conversation turned to who we’d told about our blogs/YouTube channels, almost everyone said that they hadn’t told anyone in the beginning and had only started telling people that were close to them once they’d been blogging a while and had mild success with it.

Aren’t we part of a community that strives to make everyone feel good and to be themselves?

Then why aren’t we proud of what we do? All of the hard work that goes into blogging; the writing, the endless photographing, being a part of 4 billion online networking sites, actual real life networking at press events and spending hundreds of pounds on the latest products. If blogging was our full time profession we’d be complimented on our hard-work and dedication but as a hobby it’s one that most of us keep secret.

Maybe it’s because it’s an internet-based hobby, it’s weird for older generations that perhaps aren’t as reliant on technology? Or just for people that don’t spend as much time online as we do? We don’t think people would understand what we’re doing and why we’re doing it? We think they might judge us negatively?

I’m guilty. I haven’t outwardly told anyone about Paperbacks & Postcards. My friends and family just found it (because I am a rubbish secret keeper!). I don’t know why I didn’t tell anyone when I started it; I guess I was just a bit shy and didn’t think anyone would be interested really. I had a goal in my head of when I thought my blog was worthy to be shared with my ‘real life’, I passed it and then thought it was a little bit late to tell anyone. I’m less shy about it now though, but I still wouldn’t outwardly mention it to someone unless they asked me about it first.

I just wish that I had had the bravery? to tell people from the start, I’ve had nothing but good feedback and it’s changed my life completely. I would have never imagined that I’d be popping to London 5 or 6 times a month to go to PR events, attending meet-ups with people I’d never met before, and writing pretty much every single day 2 years ago. But I am and I’m proud of what I do.

We need to listen to our own advice sometimes, let’s be proud of what we’ve achieved!

Are you a ‘secret blogger’?

How long did it take you to tell your friends and family about your blog?

32 comments:

  1. I'm quite open with people about my blog. But a lot of people I didn't tell, found it themselves, through following me on Twitter! xo

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    1. That's how a lot of people found out about my blog too :) x

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  2. I love this! I'm exactly like that, I've been posting my blog on Twitter, but for some reason I'm terrified to do it on Facebook or tell anyone about it. Maybe I should just bite the bullet and do it! x

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    1. I've never posted mine of Facebook either! I don't really use it much though but there's too many people I don't like on FB lol x

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  3. I'm a secret blogger. My family know, and my bf does, but my friends are still clueless. Part of this is because I'm away from university, and its just not really come up in conversation. However, after reading this, i think ill make an effort to get them to look :)

    xoxo
    Jessica
    from
    www.thecrownwings.blogspot.com

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    1. Definitely share it! I'm going to try to share mine more often too! x

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  4. I'm a secret blogger :O The only person who knows is my boyfriend who's really supportive and positive about it, not sure my parents would feel the same though as they don't really understand 'blogs'. I once overheard a friend say "what's even the point of blogs, is it just some online diary and why would you want to tell everyone about you", and that put me off telling anybody. I hope one day I'll tell more people but it's just finding the right words! I think even if I did tell my parents they still wouldn't be keen on the idea of me running off to meet other bloggers unfortunately :( Great post though as it is something we are all a little bit guilty of I think! xx

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  5. great post :) I didn't tell anyone for my first few months of blogging because I wanted to be sure I was sticking with it. But, I did keep it quiet with friends as I didn't want them thinking it was lame or me just being vain :/ now they all know and most of them are cool with it, I do get a few funny looks when I talk about it sometimes though. At my uni I gave a lecture on blogging and how to network because I was doing a spa degree and networking was important and everyone loved it, that made me glad I'd told people about it :)

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  6. I actually haven't told anyone either. I guess it's because part of me started my blog since beauty isn't interesting to anyone in my life and therefore I have no one to actually talk about it too. If they're not interesting in what I blog about theres not much point them knowing I keep one.
    I would love to share it but I don't think I'd get the reception I'd want, if only I had a like-minded sister!

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  7. I've never really told anyone about it to be honest, mainly because I think it's kind of hard to explain "I take photos of what I wear and put them online" without sounding a bit weird, especially to people who really don't use the internet much. :/ That said, I've met lots of lovely people through my blog and really enjoy doing it.

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  8. I had a funny experience recently when one of my best friends 'admitted' she had a blog and I had to come clean too!
    Kirstie weekendtoast x

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  9. I haven't needed to tell people about my blog per se, as I promote it through social networking. My Dad found it because he Googles me, and is probably my blog's biggest fan, bless him. I do tell people I blog if they ask me what I like to do, but it's not something I really think to bring up I guess! x

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  10. As soon as I saw the title of this post pop up on my blogger I knew I had to write something back.
    I'm a secret blogger. The only person who really knows what I do is my hubby. My worry is no one else will really understand it so I don't tell. My friends don't even know. Not about my blog or my YouTube. Even when I was at a PR event for Nails Inc and someone asked me my blogging name, I went all shy and embarrassed. I think it's because I don't feel successful compared to other well know bloggers who are out there. I feel like who would care about little old me :(

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  11. Nobody knows about my blog! I'm going to tell my boyfriend soon, I'm pretty sure he thinks I'm having an affair hahah. I don't mind him knowing at all but for now it's my own little thing that I'm enjoying so I'm quite happy to keep it as it is without telling family & friends!x

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  12. I didnt tell my family for about 4mth. I then posted a post on fb and i haven't looked back. I come from a very open family and their proud of me. I never feel i cant share, but i do sometime get a phonecall from my nan asking if im oki.

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  13. I am totally secret blogger. I've started telling a few people but I'm still pretty reluctant. :P you're totally right though, it makes no sense.

    L.
    Good Morning Angel.

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  14. My husband knows and so does our close friend - they've known from the off - everyone else doesn't know or doesn't care. My husband has always been really supportive of my blog and shares my posts on facebook so his family members can see it but they aren't interested in me as a person so they don't take the time to look at my blog either. Which is rather off putting and just makes me continue to not want to tell people about blogging and why I do it.

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  15. yes, i'm kind of that 'secret blogger', even though i put the link on my twitter, my friends didn't notice them before. but then i found some amazing blogs and talk about them constantly, and so my close friend knows that i have a blog... and more friends know about it and that's when i feel okay to put the link to my new post. i don't know. i think i was not confident enough. :)

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  16. It's funny, because I told EVERYONE about my blog! I used to work in the male-dominated field of sales, so I'm no stranger to promoting myself. Lots of the friends / family I told about it didn't really know what to say. I got some people asking me if I don't have anything better to do with my time! Luckily, there are lots of appreciative strangers out there who like my blog, and some of my friends check it regularly.
    I actually wrote a blog post about my experiences last week. Check it out:
    http://daniellecurio.blogspot.co.uk/2012/07/me-time.html
    Danielle x

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  17. I think I started telling people about my blog a few months after I started writing. My family are really proud of me and love reading my posts - which is cute. I wasn't sure what my best friends would think, but I've recently found out that the majority of them do read most of my posts, which is lovely. More recently I have been posting my links to my personal Facebook. I know there will be people who think blogging is weird, or fail to understand why I do it, but at the end of the day it is a part of my life, and something I want people to share with me! xo

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  18. Most people know about my blog I am proud of it but i dont think many people know what a huge role it plays in my day to day life becasue the only people who would understand that are also bloggers! xx

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  19. At the start I only told a couple of close friends.. Most people know now though, it's hard not to mention it sometimes when you're going to blog based things. It's odd but I still feel awkward or even a bit embarrassed when people ask about it which is mad as I love doing it and they just want to understand what it is! I still don't have it linked to my facebook account but really should!

    Caroline x
    Caroline's Catwalk

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  20. my family know, as does my bf who takes my outfit photos ;)
    one of my friends who i hadnt seen in ages recently mentioned to me that she'd 'found' my blog and loved it, which encouraged me to share it with more of my friends :)
    Rosie xo
    A Pocketful of Rosie

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  21. At first I only told my Mum because I live at home and she didn't really get it so I didn't bother telling anymore of my family. Then she let slip to my Dad who tells all his friends, he loves the sound of the blogging community, always rambles on when hes had a few. It's quite funny. Turns out one of his friends wife has one. I've only recently told my brother and as for my friends well the nosey ones found me on Twitter, I didn't hide it, don't care what they say, I love blogging after a crap (most days) day & the lovely grisl that you find along the way :) If people find it they find it I love my internet space even if people think we're weird for writing about beauty, fashion etc on the internet. :)

    Lucy
    http://lucyywrites01.blogspot.com
    x

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  22. I'm really open with my blog when it comes to people my own age. But my parents & the in-laws are a different matter. They kinda know about my blog but if they ask me anything I just brush it off! I just don't think that generation would really understand it! xx

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  23. I haven't told any of my 'real life friends' about my blog which is strange really because they all know that i love writing and constantly tell me i should start blogging! At the moment i'm still finding my feet with my blog - when i'm a little more comfortable with it then i might tell people. My boyfriend knows that i blog but i really don't think he'd have any interest in reading my ramblings about clothes, rants and girly stuff lol x

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  24. I'm sort of half and half, I'm open about it on twitter and so friends who follow me know about it, but I don't really talk about it with other friends and non-bloggers. It's also interesting that friends who follow me on twitter and blogger all work in digital or spend a lot of time in internet land.

    Jess

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  25. I'm sort of half and half! Some people - my best friends / mum / boyfriend know alll about it but then others dont have a clue ha-ha I'm not ashamed I'm just never one to sing from the rooftops! It's so strange :p

    Sarah
    xx

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  26. Such an interesting post! I was part of a conversation about this on twitter the other day, and I was saying that I find that I'm just careful about how I phrase what I do to people. I talk openly about blogging and exactly what it involves to people of my generation (20/30s) but to older people I tend to say that I do a lot of writing and that because I want to write professionally post-uni, my blog is a bit like an 'online portfolio'! It isn't of course, my blog is a labour of love and I adore it for what it is, but I find talking about it in this way helps to avoid the difficult/hurtful comments about it being a silly hobby or a waste of time.

    This is a lovely post and blog, I'm going to follow now :)

    www.ciderwithrosiebee.blogspot.com

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  27. oh my finally someone said it =)
    Yes I m a secret blogger just because I started blogging and the main reason is that people around me will never understand what blogging is apart from my husband n my mom. The other day I spent complete one hour to explain my mother in law what exactly blogging is, why I take lot of stupid pictures of beauty products.

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  28. Well, I don't keep it a secret..but I don't go around telling everyone...so I don't know really if I am or not a "secret" blogger.. I made up a Facebook page for my blog, and some of my friends read it, but I don't actually go around advertising it... It's not that I'm shy or anything..it's just that I feel it's kinda hard to explain why I find blogging so fun, since I don't blog just about ONE topic...

    xoRosie
    http://teacupsanddresses.blogspot.com/

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